Reading

Books I recommend because they changed how I think, work, communicate, or live.

  1. How to Win Friends and Influence People

    Dale Carnegie

    Still useful because it makes conversation less about performing and more about curiosity. The core lesson is simple: people open up when you show real interest in them.

  2. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

    Robert B. Cialdini

    A field guide to the levers people pull when they want a yes. Useful for spotting persuasion in the wild, and weirdly useful when negotiating with a toddler.

  3. The Mom Test

    Rob Fitzpatrick

    The quickest way I know to stop asking leading questions. If you build products, it helps you learn what people actually do and need instead of collecting compliments.

  4. The Phoenix Project

    Gene Kim, Kevin Behr, and George Spafford

    A workplace novel about an IT org learning to see its bottlenecks, tame the fires, and ship faster. It is corny at times, but the systems thinking lands.

  5. Atlas of the Heart

    Brene Brown

    Useful if you want better words for what you and the people around you are feeling. The audiobook is especially good because Brene's narration gives the ideas warmth and weight.

  6. Apple in China: The Capture of the World's Greatest Company

    Patrick McGee

    A reminder that beloved products can depend on messy geopolitical and supply-chain tradeoffs. It makes Apple's success feel less inevitable and much more complicated.

  7. Elon Musk

    Walter Isaacson

    A high-access portrait of ambition, volatility, and execution. Love him or hate him, it is useful context on one of the most consequential entrepreneurs of our time.

  8. The Pragmatic Programmer

    David Thomas and Andrew Hunt

    A durable engineering handbook about taking responsibility for your craft. It has aged well because the advice is mostly about judgment, taste, and ownership rather than tools.

  9. Working Effectively with Legacy Code

    Michael C. Feathers

    The book for when the code is scary, tangled, and already in production. It turns legacy code from a source of dread into something you can approach methodically.

  10. Rework

    Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson

    A crisp counterweight to bloated startup and management advice. It is most useful as permission to do less, stay small, and ship real work.

  11. How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk

    Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

    Practical scripts for keeping connection intact when emotions are high. It gives you better words right when your own words are most likely to disappear.

  12. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

    John M. Gottman and Nan Silver

    Research-backed relationship advice that stays concrete. It is useful because it treats trust as something maintained through small, repeated habits.